The One Thing That Makes a Good Husband
What does it take to be a good husband? What makes a good husband? According to the definition of the word, it’s someone who takes care of their wife. Is there one thing that can make a man a good husband and vice versa for women? In this blog post, we are going to explore what makes a man or woman a good spouse. We will dissect the qualities that make them so amazing and finally answer the question: What is the one thing that makes a good husband or wife?
I asked psychologist John Gottman to share what he looks for in a good husband. To wit:
Self-disclosure, in all its forms: How much do you share with your spouse about your innermost thoughts and feelings? Do you reveal your insecurities? Do you trust your spouse to keep them to themselves? How do you react when your spouse reveals secrets to you? Do you have trouble seeing secrets? How well do you honor your partner’s privacy?
How much do you share with your spouse about your innermost thoughts and feelings? Do you reveal your insecurities? Do you trust your spouse to keep them to themselves? How do you react when your spouse reveals secrets to you? Do you have trouble seeing secrets? How well do you honor your partner’s privacy? Sincerity and dependability: It’s important that your
What makes a good husband
“In every marriage, there is the possibility of a good husband and a bad husband,” Dr. Glenn Pluff, a psychiatrist and married family counselor, tells Men’s Health. “The good husband has certain strengths that he develops through his life experience that help him as a husband. The bad husband lacks these strengths and lacks empathy.” Physical features like eyes, hands, face, and body shape might be a clue into what makes a good husband and a bad husband, according to Dr. Pluff. Being very tall can be a bad sign, for example, as can a large, intimidating stature. But the biggest indicator for determining a good husband is a psychological shift. For men, making this change is easy, according to Dr. Pluff. “The hardest thing is to get men to think about their wife’s feelings,” he says.
How to be a better husband
1. You should respect your wife as an equal partner. This doesn’t mean you should be any less caring about your own interests. Rather, your wife should be given the respect she deserves as your equal. 2. You should be nice to your wife even when you’re stressed out or angry. When you are upset, don’t try to make your wife feel guilty for making you mad. Instead, calmly explain to her why you’re upset and apologize if you need to, even if you’re not at fault. You can’t expect to be successful at any part of your marriage until you’re genuinely able to be calm with one another. 3. You should be involved in your wife’s daily routine. She needs to feel like her husband is a part of her life.
Why marriages thrive when both partners play an active role
Continue Reading Below According to a study done by the “Good Husband” Calculator, the majority of husbands felt their wives understood them better when they showed interest in their own mental and physical health. In fact, nearly 80% said this was the case. So what do they do? Well, one of the first things they do is take an active interest in their partner’s physical health. In fact, 63% of the husbands surveyed conducted a weekly physical activity of some kind for their spouse, and nearly two-thirds have tried to quit smoking in order to make their spouse’s health a priority. Perhaps most important, however, is the simple fact that husbands who want to be better husbands make an effort.
There you have it. There is no simple formula for knowing if a man is a good husband, but he probably has a relationship with God (obviously), he treats his wife well, he’s faithful to her and loving, and, well, he probably likes sex. So, in the end, why wouldn’t he be a good husband? If you’re interested in reading more about how you can become a better man, check out 5 Truths Men Need to Know. Originally written Dec 2012. Last updated Nov 2014.