Divorce is a hard process to go through. It can also be expensive and time-consuming. This is true even if you are both on the same page and want to settle everything quickly and amicably. But what happens when one spouse wants to drag things out? And what about cases in which there are disagreements on money, custody, or anything else? You may feel like you’re being bullied or pressured into accepting something less than you want. What should you do? There are a few tips that can help you avoid fighting in court so that you can get the best possible deal for yourself.
Know your state’s laws
When it comes to divorces, many states have different laws. Some states have completely different divorce laws, which can make it difficult to determine if the divorce is right for you. The best way to avoid fighting in court and potentially going bankrupt is to know the laws that apply to your situation. You can do this by consulting with an attorney, who can evaluate your state’s laws and recommend the best possible outcome. Take steps to avoid fighting in court Now that you know the laws, you’re ready to take action to ensure that you don’t end up being thrown into court. How do you do that? Here are some steps you can take to avoid any problems. Figure out which area of law applies. Different states apply different laws.
It’s very common for one spouse in a divorce to drag out proceedings simply because they want to. There’s no need to make things harder for yourself by playing games and lording over your spouse’s life. If something happens, get it documented immediately. A lawyer can explain to you why it is so important to keep those details, or you can write it down yourself. Either way, you don’t want to find out the hard way that you didn’t know the details you need when it came time to make the final decision. Section 3 – Hire a competent lawyer If you want to avoid fighting in court, you have to find someone who specializes in divorce. This is not as easy as you may think.
Get legal advice
When there are disputes, there are times when you might need to go to court and demand a solution. There are times when a lack of proper planning can cause problems, especially when there is no actual contract in place or when one of the spouses is filing for divorce. In these cases, if the other spouse is unhappy about what happened, then you may need to get legal advice from an attorney. In these cases, your attorney will recommend specific wording for your divorce documents that is in your best interest. He or she will review your legal agreement for potential conflicts of interest and how they will affect the terms of your divorce. In the event of an actual issue, then the lawyer can prepare a response.
Keep to the facts
Criminal defense attorney Jay Goldberg has this tip: “It’s best to stick to the facts. The reason why is because it’s really simple: The judge can’t know what the real story is, so the facts are the facts. If you try to bring in “sides” or “he said/she said” allegations, you’ll quickly lose. Then you’re going to have to defend all the really bad stuff you said – and that’s just not fair. Don’t lead the judge into thinking that you did something wrong. Just tell the facts, and the facts are what they are.” If you’re already over the hump in terms of your divorce, keep to the facts. This includes not going around trying to prove to people that your spouse is a criminal, cheating spouse, or anything else.
Be willing to negotiate
Even if you decide that you don’t want to go ahead with the divorce, you don’t have to be on the same page all the time. You can come to an agreement and also be willing to renegotiate the terms of the agreement later on, if it turns out that you can’t get everything you want. This is especially important if one of you wants to get a lot more alimony than the other. Be willing to go along with whatever you can afford and to make reasonable concessions when the time comes. Set a deadline If you are close to reaching the deadline for settling the divorce, don’t push your partner to settle any earlier than you want them to. Sometimes, one of you will want to settle too early and the other won’t want to settle at all.
Do some research on your own
There is a lot of information out there about divorce, but not a lot about staying calm and focused during and after the process. And it is easy to become disoriented and scared about what is going on. You need to get a lot of support, such as information from others and some strategies to help you remain calm and confident, which will make things easier on both of you. It is also important to look at what is going on with a detached, detached, and even detached sense of perspective. The facts are still the facts and it may be that the divorce process is just an unpleasant change in the reality of your life, but it does not have to be a good or healthy thing. But you need to give yourself plenty of time to digest the information that you get from friends, family, or even outside sources.
Be prepared for a long process
If you’ve decided to settle out of court, it’s not too early to begin researching what kind of deal you can negotiate. A friend of mine was recently involved in a divorce where she negotiated a much smaller settlement than the one she expected to receive. She was well aware of the amount that her soon-to-be-ex-husband was likely to receive in the end. Yet she was not prepared for the process. Her lawyers did not seem to realize that she wanted to avoid litigation, and therefore, did not give her an accurate idea of what was in her best interests. For example, there were technicalities that could have been overlooked that would have prevented her husband from collecting a good deal of his award.
Give yourself time to heal
Be patient. If you are too angry to think straight, then don’t sign anything or say anything to your spouse until you can go back and make an informed decision. Don’t agree to something or offer your child to be part of the agreement if you’re just going to shoot it down once you have some time to think about it. It can be a long process. Don’t make your spouse see it through to the bitter end just because you want it over with. Get time to think it over and get some advice from a good divorce lawyer or another trusted family member. Never negotiate under duress It’s never a good idea to negotiate something you can’t handle. If your spouse has put some pressure on you, then it’s time to walk away. It’s your right to decide how much money you are willing to give up in a divorce case.
At this point, you have to ask yourself whether you are able to keep fighting this battle. There may be a slight chance that you can keep going, but you would have to be prepared to endure a lot of stress. There is no way out of it; you either get your way or you pay a lot in legal fees. You may even have to fight your spouse in court. Think about the factors that drive you to fight and see if you are not already preparing yourself for that.